Family Constellations
What is it?
“It was the most enlightening, joyful, tearful, and amazing 3 hours I've ever spent. Words cannot describe the wonder of Family Constellations. You have to be part of it to get the benefits! “
Jack F. ~ Ft. Lauderdale, FL
Do you feel “stuck” in a particular area of your life?
Would you like to improve your relationship with a son, daughter, parent, sibling, or other family member?
Have you had difficulty finding the right partner or job?
Would you like to remove the blocks to financial abundance so more money can flow into your life?
Does it seem like another health challenge pops up as soon as one goes away?
Are you feeling disconnected or hopeless?
Family Constellations can help!
“It's been one month since my Family Constellation, and I am still in awe of the experience. In addition to your kind energy and patience, your wisdom provided insights into my past experiences I had not yet recognized. Thanks to you, some long-overdue healing has begun and, for the first time, I am truly excited about the possibility of living wholly in the future.”
Renata ~ Houston, TX
Family Constellations is a powerful healing tool that reveals the unconscious and often surprising sources of recurring patterns that keep you from the happy, healthy life you were meant to live. Developed in the 1980s by a German psychotherapist named Bert Hellinger, Family Constellations was born out of Hellinger’s diverse life experiences. Growing up in Germany between World War I & II, he saw the devastating results of placing ideology before humanity.
After serving in and losing his older brother in WWII, Hellinger lived with the Zulu in South Africa for sixteen years as a Catholic priest and missionary. He observed how their tribal customs and rituals created strong ancestral connections and that unhealthy family patterns often did not repeat.
Eventually, his desire to learn more about these familial connections and patterns grew so strong that he left the priesthood and returned to Europe to study philosophy and many different forms of psychoanalysis and psychotherapy. As he put these varied pieces together, Hellinger came to understand the importance of belonging and the lengths we will go to feel connected to our family of origin. This desire to belong may be unconscious, but that doesn’t make it any less powerful.
Hellinger observed that every member of a family system needs to be recognized in order for the system to be balanced and harmonious. Sometimes due to extremely painful circumstances such as the death of a child or parent, mental illness, suicide, incarceration, or any kind of abuse, a family member shuts down, is excluded, or is forgotten. When an entire generation experiences a trauma, well-intentioned members of that generation often choose not to talk about it with future generations as a way to protect them from the pain.
Unfortunately, ignorance does not shield our descendants from the influence of these events. Unconscious loyalties to these family members often make us do things to the detriment of our own well-being. Family Constellations uncovers these hidden loyalties and dynamics so we see the bigger picture. From this new perspective, we reclaim our power, allowing us to make conscious, healthy choices.
The experience can be life-changing!
No mattter where in the world you live, we can do a Private Family Constellations session using Zoom Video Conferencing. If you prefer, we can connect using Skype or FaceTime, but it works best with a video component. The experience is just as powerful and healing remotely!
Sessions last approximately 2 hours
To schedule an in-person session in Florida, please contact me to make arrangements.
What happens in a Group Session?
At the beginning of the workshop (both virtual and in-person), the names of all of the participants are put into a basket. Before each constellation, one name is picked. This person will have the opportunity to look at their issue or concern in a constellation. Nothing is mandatory, and participants always have the option to pass if they choose.
If your name is picked and you feel ready, I will ask you some basic questions about your family history and the area of your life that you would like to improve. After I gather some general information, you will be asked to choose someone in the group to represent you, and then others to represent the different key components in your family system.
If we are gathering in person, you will place them in the “Knowing Field,” the area in the center of the room designated through our common intention as the place where any information that will be helpful can be accessed. Then, whether in person or online, we watch what unfolds as the representatives start to feel the feelings of the people or aspects they are representing.
Anyone can represent in a constellation. We are all intuitive to some degree and have the ability to tap into information from sources other than the five senses. This is exactly what happens in the “Knowing Field.” Participants are often surprised by how much they can feel.
Once an entanglement has been discovered, an excluded one has been revealed, or some other obstacle to the flow of love shows up, I will ask you to take the place of your representative in the Knowing Field. This way you can have a direct experience of the shift that is happening. Then, as we follow the movement, you will be guided on what to say and do to restore balance and harmony to the system.
Whether playing a role or simply observing, participants are amazed when they see the bigger picture and how seemingly unrelated things are connected. Not every constellation concludes with a clear resolution, but each one provides a step towards healing and the opportunity for movement where there was none before. It makes no difference whether we gather in person or online, when what was hidden is acknowledged, a new healthier pattern is established and everyone feels the shift. The process is truly miraculous.
“I have had both private and group Family Constellations sessions with John and both experiences have been nothing shy of remarkable! The gifts of peace, insight and appreciation with which I've walked away have been invaluable to my personal healing process. John radiates peaceful, compassionate energy in his facilitation, creating the safe space necessary for others to participate. He does beautiful work. Give yourself the remarkable gift of having a session with John.”
Jennifer D. ~ Houston, TX